What to Do:
1. Ask open-ended questions that will help to keep a conversation flowing. ("What's the best thing about being on the soccer team?" instead of "Do you like being on the soccer team?")
2. Use body language to convey your interest. Lean toward him when talking, avoid crossing your arms or letting your eyes wander around the room as if you're bored by his company.
3. Talk about common experiences (classes you have together, movies you've both seen recently, bands you like).
4. Admit to him that you're nervous. It can help you feel more at ease if you're honest with him. Beside he's likely to feel flattered that he has that kind of effect on you!
What To Ditch (and Why)
Here are some questions that are better left unasked...
* WHAT DO YOU LIKE BEST ABOUT ME?
Why? You're setting up a no-win situation. If he says you're smart, you'll probably begin to wonder if he doesn't like the way you look. If he says your eyes, you may think he's too focused on your physical appearance.
* WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF I CHEATED ON YOU?
In asking a question like this, you're basically testing him to see how much you can get away with. Don't push your luck!
* DO YOU THINK ABOUT YOUR EX-GIRLFRIEND A LOT?
If he's smart, do you think he's really going to give you a straight answer?
(Taken from Dating Dilemmas, TEEN Magazine)
21 November 2008
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